With my friends, Regine and Lerr.
Thirty day challenges are all the rage these days. It indeed takes 30 days to form a habit, because I'm getting so into blog challenges. This is my second attempt at one, and I still have two more that are still pending. Now, let me begin with the most recent one that I agreed to do. The first task is to give you five ways to win my heart. I'm not someone who plays hard to get, but I'm also not otherwise. I actually don't know what to call myself. I guess I'm just in between. I don't belong in either one of those two. To tell you frankly, I don't have an idea of what are the exact ways for you to win me. But since this is a dare, I might as well give it a whirl whether I like it or not. The things I'd like to share are true to all kinds of friendship, not just romantically as other people seem to consider it.
I do think I'm a weird and boring person. I'm not saying that because I'm trying to get pity from you, but because I want to give you a warning. I can get too sensitive, demanding, assuming or cynical at times. I decline group excursions, sleepovers and other activities most of the time because I'm raised to be a homebody. Most of my friends don't bother to invite me anymore because they already know that my answer is a resounding NO. They think I'm a kill-joy. I have a good number of friends around, but only a few can stand and handle me. To name a few are Lerr, Regine and my boyfriend. You still have time to think whether you want to win my heart or not. You're time's up by the time you've read my list. LOL! But if you insist on knowing the details, here's how you crack the egg shell confining me.
The Ingredients to Win My Heart
- You need to make me feel that you are worth fighting for. I'm a loyal friend or girlfriend, so if the scenario calls for me to defend you I'd definitely fight for you. It may sound really corny, but I would do everything just to make my friends feel that they are special to me. In return, I want you to be true. I don't want to be with a hypocrite person. If you don't like me, just say it outright. Don't make me give my full heart to you when you know deep down that you don't deserve it. Don't be a fool.
- You have to accept me, especially my flaws. As you know me better, you may find certain things that are very unattractive and repelling. I hope those won't matter to you the most. I want someone who highlights the interesting spots of my personality more than the dull ones. I don't want a friend or a partner who feels awkward being with me. I've had my share of bad experiences with people who got ashamed of me. Those were traumatizing, I hope it won't happen to me again.
- You need to prepare yourself in telling everything about you. I don't mind it if you spill your heart to me. I want to know my friends even more, and that can only be done through no-holds-barred chitchats. It's difficult to befriend someone who doesn't trust me. I tell you, I'm a good listener. It's fine with me if you monopolize the conversation, and I only have to butt in just as long as you show me that you have faith in me. I always love heartfelt conversations. I hope you do too.
- You have to be inane at times. Who would want to be with someone who's always serious, right? Humor is always a good bait. It's lovely and it also makes a relationship lively. Whoa, that rhymes. LOL! I love to laugh even at the corniest antics. If you want to be my friend, you should learn how to make life less formal by doing and talking about nonsense stuffs sometimes. I hope you don't mind spending half of your life laughing with me. This is one of the reasons why I love you, Ciovic. Mushy!
- Lastly, I want a friend who has a common ground with me. I hate arguments, that's why I try to avoid them as much as possible. I don't get along well with someone who is a complete opposite of me. I don't like debates, because my blood easily boils. I get mad that instant, I don't know why. Wouldn't it be nice if the person you are with shares the same passion and sentiments with you? But of course that doesn't mean, I already dislike you if we have different opinions. That happens once in a while. I understand.
I've found some friends who have all the ingredients to win my heart. I'm still hoping that they'll grow in number as days go by. It may be good to keep everything to yourself, but it's undeniable that it always feels good to have people you can turn to in dark and difficult times.
